I have had a lot of people ask me for advice in regards to relationships. The first thing I say to them is read the book called "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman.
Now, some of you may think, why is this so important? I show my loved ones that I love them all the time! Maybe you do, but do they receive it? If they don't receive it, it's like it doesn't exist. One of the tricks of a lasting relationship is making sure that the love meter stays full, when it starts to get low, that is where things start to get difficult and start to unravel. I got turned onto this book right after I got divorced. After reading it, I could pinpoint exactly when things in that relationship started to go south. For many years he spoke my language, but as the years went on, that stopped and I started to feel very unloved which caused me to detach. At that point I didn't know how to tell him what was missing, I just knew something was. Near the end, he tried many different ways, but unfortunately, none of them were my language, so it made absolutely no difference. I also had no idea what his language was. I believe there is a reason that I didn't discover this book until after the divorce, I wasn't meant to save that relationship, but I sure learned a lot from it!! When the time comes that I am blessed with a new relationship, I certainly know what to do differently and what to work on!
So figure out your language, let your love ones know how they can show you love (as they are NOT mind readers) and learn what theirs is. This along with open communication will lead you to a successful relationship. I won't say that there won't be bumps along the road, any relationship is hard work, but if you have a strong foundation in these two areas, those bumps will be short lived. Happy Loving!! <3